I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason isn’t working right now. Perhaps this problem feels overwhelming and is making it difficult to access your past strengths. In our work together, I’ll help you identify what those strengths are and how to implement them again in what is happening now.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, if you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
What is the difference between a therapist and a coach?
A therapist takes someone from either chronic or temporary dysfunction in area of their lives to a place of functionality. A coach takes someone from functional to optimal. The therapist is the scuba diver, diving deep into the past and root cause so to bring awareness to heal – especially in areas of trauma. The coach is more like the fisherman, fishing for a catch from the surface, and then reeling it in to observe and decide where to go from there with the client.
How would I know which one of you I should work with?
We will do an initial intake session with you either over the phone or in person to determine what you need/want and the best way to obtain both. As you begin to work with one of us, things will emerge telling us if you are indeed working with a coach or a counselor is the best course of action to benefit you. You may even work with both of us simultaneously. You are well covered.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time therapy can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. After all, we only see each other for a session a week. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development. You will be supported between sessions by text, email, and short check in calls when required.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
I recommend that both you and your partner have an initial assessment session together followed by 2 individual assessment alone. Afterwards, Elena will work only work with one of you, while Chris works with the other.